Filling the Jar
We've all seen it.
The classic demonstration where a jar is filled with stones. It appears to be full until you realize there's still room to add sand. The sand is poured in, and now it really appears to be full until you discover that you can also add water! Minds are blown, perspectives permanently altered.
I used to think this metaphor was intended to teach me that I can fit more into my day.
And that was the last thing I wanted to hear.
No one wants to be told they are not fitting enough into their day, nor should they. Whether a busy mom who works full time, or a retiree who is rightfully enjoying the golden years, we are all enough and we are all doing enough.
But the jar metaphor isn't about how much we do. It's about the order in which we do things.
If you add the sand first, the stones won’t fit. If you start with water, the sand will overflow. In order to get everything into the jar, items must be added in order, stones to water, and our lives are no different.
When you prioritize things that are insignificant, you run out of room for things that matter most.
One great way to reflect on the use of your time is to ask - What are my own stones, sand and water?
Stones -
These are things that bring you the most joy and fulfillment - Faith, family, physical health, for example. They are also the things that, when prioritized, have the domino effect of making everything else in your life better and easier.
Sand -
Sand represents things that are important to you, but that you could ultimately live without. Hobbies, side hustles and social commitments are a few possible examples, but what constitutes this second tier is entirely personal to you.
Water -
The water represents the icing on the cake; the extra things in life, like material possessions, social media or indulgences. We need plenty of water in our jars, just ideally not at the expense of stones or sand.
Taking the time to consider the elements of your own jar and the order in which you layer them is well worth the effort.
And the best thing about our jars?
Every night, no matter what went into them that day or in what order, you get to seal the lid and set it on a shelf. The next day begins with an empty jar; ready and waiting for fresh supply of stones, sand and water, in any proportion or order you choose.